“Memory Journals you ask? I have baby books that I many times struggle getting everything recorded in!”
I agree…while the idea of writing down all of the memories is a terrific idea…sometimes it is hard enough just doing life! However, keeping a journal by the side of your bed makes it easier to keep up with. Maybe you can set a goal to try to write in it weekly…monthly…or quarterly. Capturing some of the precious moments is better than none at all.
How many times have you chuckled softly to yourself when your child says something funny….or maybe even a little naughty (like a cuss word), but it just sounded so cute! You try to recall that moment (that you thought you would NEVER forget) just a couple of days later….and it has vanished into that vast dark hole in your head that is trying to keep up with everyone’s schedules and activities.
I kept a journal for each of my children. Sometimes I would journal regularly and then forget for awhile and start back up a couple of months later. I wrote funny things they said, cute things they did, and times they were mad and were going to run away or threw them selves down in the middle of the mall. I also described their Halloween outfits each year (those really start running together after years pass). I wrote of special memories with a friend or family member (i.e. how we would go to “little” Grandma’s house after Halloween and let her empty our coveted goodies in the middle of the floor and let her pick out her favorites). I added memories of their school involvement and much, much more.
However, I also wrote about the times that I was frustrated as a mother….no one really likes to talk about that~to admit that there are times you are so frustrated that it makes you feel like a bad mom. The times you need to count to 100 instead of just 10. It’s important to know that it is normal to feel overwhelmed…and more importantly to not feel guilty about this. I want them to read their journals when they have their families and understand you do get overwhelmed, but it doesn’t mean you love your children any less.
I had planned on starting “Mimi” journals early on and failed. However, as stated earlier, some memories are better than none. These grandchildren amaze us every day. In fact, I wish I had a nickel for every time I call Brad at work to tell him something funny the kids have said or done. So I have now started a journal for Addi & Max. I plan on trying to write in it more often….this brain is more forgetful now than it was in my younger years. It’s important to me that they know how very much I cherish being their Mimi!